The Silent Treatment is a Relationship Killer

Getting Organized:
In your home and homeschool



Dear Friends,

When you are upset with someone do you react with the silent treatment? This method of dealing with conflict is a relationship killer. It cuts off communication. It builds walls. It removes your participation from the relationship.

The silent treatment does not put you in control of the relationship. Rather it makes you an observer of the relationship. You are no longer participating in the relationship. You have frozen the other person out of the relationship.

If this continues over the course of months or years, it gives your relationship the death sentence.

Some people take the silent treatment on as an art form. Eventually, it will spread to others. Then both of you have removed yourself from the relationship. It is not one-sided at this point.

If you find yourself the recipient of the silent treatment often, I suggest you find a counselor and make an appointment. This can just be for yourself, but eventually, you need couple’s counseling if you are going to work through this and communicate normally.

A once happy and talkative person can become adept at giving the silent treatment back. When it becomes the norm for the talkative person to not talk or communicate, the death sentence is all but carried out on the relationship.

Why do people use the silent treatment on those they profess to love? It is not a loving act for those in the relationship.

If you have read about the limbic system of the brain, we all have Flight or Fight instincts. I think those who use the silent treatment often are using the Flight instinct instead of trying to talk the problem out.

If you are the person who is giving the silent treatment to someone in your family, make a step today to talk and start healing. If you are the one who is getting the silent treatment, find a Christian counselor and talk to them about it. You do not have to live this way.

Today’s Zone Mission is to detail dust the China Cabinet.

Your Home Blessing for today is to empty the trash, sweep, and mop.

My menu plan for Friday is pizza and a salad.

Have a wonderful weekend!

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About Tami

Tami Fox is a homeschool mom of 6, who in age from 26 to 11. She and her husband have homeschooled for 17 years and have graduated three of their children from their homeschool. They are currently homeschooling 3 boys who are in grades 11, 9, and 6. They use hands-on learning and unit studies to ignite the fire of learning in their children. Tami is a homeschool author and conference speaker. You can contact her by email at Buy her book, Giving Your Children Wings at

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