Today’s topic is a little different because I have listened to Marla (The FlyLady) talk about this before, and I want to remind you that your actions, words, and your tone matter to your family.

You can have an organized home and have discipline in your home without screaming and yelling. You can use your words to build others up instead of tearing them down with negativity. You can use a kind tone when you speak to your family. Does this mean that you are a doormat and walked over? No. It means that you speak with respect and love.

Think back to a time when you used negative words and a harsh tone to get something done in your house. How did you feel? How did your family feel?

Now, think of a time when you used kindness and respect to speak to others. How did you feel about that?

My boys are mostly teenagers, and I use a firm voice with them if I need to them to change a behavior. I do not belittle them or make fun of them. They often know with a look of my face that I mean business.

That old quote that “sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me” is just not true. Your words do matter. Choose them with care. If you are tired and frustrated, take a deep breath before you speak. If you are irritated, take a walk before you speak. If you feel like you need a break, take one. Pray before you speak.

Raising children is not easy, but it does not mean we have to revert to childish behavior to get things done around our house. Remain calm and in control of yourself.

Today’s Zone Mission is to declutter at the end of your bed.

Your Home Blessing for today is to empty the trash, sweep, and mop.

My menu plan for Friday is pizza and a salad.

Have a wonderful weekend!